Choosing Me: The Journey Home to My True Self

is a book about women, for women.

Release date October 2022

Fulfillment is Your Birthright

The key is realizing that fulfillment is yours and to make your way back to the core of who you are, and to live your true self in the world, unapologetically and unabashedly.

The world needs you. Don’t wait one more day to begin.

My Inspiration Story

I was inspired to write this book because of my own transformative truth journey shaped by defining moments over my life. I say “defining moments” because they’re significant events that spurred life-changing transitions. They caused me to stretch, learn what I’m capable of, and harness newfound courage I didn’t even realize I had. Each of these moments has dropped me deeper into the truth of who I am.

Through this book, my hope is that you’ll further embrace and commit to your own truth journey – get to the core of who you are, what you most want, and take the steps that’ll move you closer to living the life you most want to live.

I know from my own experience, that our identity…who we are, the life we’ve built, the way we live…can feel defined by society and others outside ourselves. I believe the most important gift we can give ourselves is to truly know who we are. But most of us as women never slow down enough to explore who we are and what we want. Now is the time.

“Choosing Me is part memoir, part thought leadership, and part deep-reflection-soul-journey. My advice? When you read this book, buckle up! If you’re willing to turn inward and take to heart her process and questions posed, your life is going to shift. I’m betting you’ll get much closer to knowing who you are and finding the courage to live your most wild and beautiful self.”

What would
happen if you

chose yourself?

So often, women are taught to put others first. We are conditioned to focus on the needs of others rather than prioritizing ourselves — and we become good at it. Choosing others becomes so central to our way of being that we can build big, busy lives without ever stopping to wonder: what if I chose me?

In her mid-forties, Jeanie Duncan was a card-carrying member of the “put others first” club. Wife, mother, daughter, sister, friend — she was surrounded by people she loved and who loved her. From the outside, it was a perfect life. But over the course of a profound period of unraveling and self-realization, she discovered that she had lost herself somewhere along the way.

Choosing Me: The Journey Home to My True Self is the achingly personal and yet stunningly universal story of one woman’s journey to discovering her truth and finding the courage to live it. At once a coming-out story that uplifts and inspires and a searing exploration of mother-daughter relationships, Choosing Me is a refreshing and powerful invitation to embrace love, live fully, and never compromise your truth.

You will love this book…

whether you feel that you’re already on your own truth journey or if you haven’t yet begun but are curious to know more. For either, it’ll bring you a sense of community…of traveling your path alongside other brave and bold women. It will instill a greater sense of commitment to yourself, your path, your evolution. And it will inspire you to action.

Book Praise: What people are saying…

 

I have had the pleasure of observing and collaborating with Jeanie as leadership development facilitators, with participants representing a wide cross-section of the business world. Jeanie’s professionalism, calm warmth, and ability to truly listen combined with a great sense of humor enables her to create safety and genuinely connect with each person in her space. She demonstrates care and empathy while supporting participants as they step out of their comfort zones in their learning and growth. Read more
Joanne Dias

Leadership Solutions Partner; Senior Faculty. Center for Creative Leadership
Together with Jeanie’s incredibly perceptive insights I have been able to discover new internal terrain (my inner thinking, conditioning and wisdom) which I am now navigating through to get even clearer about aligning my actions with my own personal North Star. Jeanie stretches my thinking, shows me new worlds I can play in, helps me to creatively design the leader I wish to be and opens new doors of possibility I hadn’t even considered. Read more
Hulya Kazanaksu

Human Behavior and Communication Specialist
Jeanie is one of the most energetic, optimistic, visionary people I’ve had the pleasure of working with. She thinks strategically, motivating followers to feel like part of a larger team achieving broad goals. Her leadership talent shines in strategic planning, business development, creating, launching and implementing new programs and building organizations. And she always has fun in the process!Read more
Denny Kelly

President, Bouvier Kelly
Jeanie led our organization through a leadership assessment, succession planning, and executive search for our Chief Executive Officer. Facilitating the transition of a long-time director, and with it an organization culture change, requires great skill and finesse. She brought a depth of knowledge and expertise to the process coupled with an interpersonal savvy to manage the complex human dynamics of change and transition. Read more
Lonnie Revels

Chair, Search Committee, Metrolina Association for the Blind
I’ve worked with Jeanie both as a participant in her Stepping Stones to Discovery program and as my executive coach. I can’t thank Jeanie enough for being instrumental in helping me get out of my career rut and figure out what was next! I would still be right where I was without her guidance. I’m told every day by women how brave I am to be making such a career leap and following my passions, how I’m inspiring them and getting them thinking. I owe a tremendous amount to Jeanie for leading me through my self-actualization journey and creating the ripple effect. Even now, she’s still my cheerleader and supporter!Read more
Christie Soper

Founder + Chief Experience Officer, Suncierge, Inc.
Jeanie is intuitive and knowledgeable, able to give strong personalized guidance for individuals and the organizations they lead. She exhibits professionalism, compassion for others, intelligence, and good humor in everything she does. Whether you are an individual needing coaching or an organization in transition, you will benefit from Jeanie’s wisdom and capabilities.Read more
Corrie Lisk-Hurst

Principal/Owner, The Better Editor
I’ve worked together with Jeanie for many years co-facilitating leadership development experiences for global executives. If I were to bottom line it, it’s a magical experience. Jeanie’s facilitation style strikes the perfect balance between structured and emergent learning that drives transformative learning. When you work with her, rest assured that your program and leaders will be in the hands of a compassionate expert.  Read more
Abigail Dunne-Moses

Director of Global Equity, Diversity, and Inclusion. Center for Creative Leadership
Jeanie’s experience as an executive leader in local, state, and national arts organizations, together with her talent as a thoughtful communicator, made Jeanie an ideal choice to facilitate a strategic planning process for the Raleigh Arts Commission. Read more
Gerry Bolas

Director, Raleigh Arts Commission
I have had the distinct privilege of working with Jeanie Duncan over the past decade through our involvement with Americans for the Arts. As Chair of AFTA’s National Private Sector Affairs Council, and as President of the United Arts Council of Greater Greensboro, Jeanie demonstrated an impressive command of complex issues surrounding cultural policy, community development, and philanthropy. She is a natural leader and outstanding cultural affairs administrator who stands firm in her convictions but is always open to new ideas and excited by challenges. Her calm and assured personal style makes her a sought-after confidante and an effective negotiator. She also has a shrewd business mind and is willing to question the status quo in order to effect positive change and growth. Jeanie is a star who will shine brightly wherever she goes. Read more
Alecia Kintner

CEO and President, ArtsWave (Cincinnati Institute of Fine Arts)
I have had the pleasure of observing and collaborating with Jeanie as leadership development facilitators, with participants representing a wide cross-section of the business world. Jeanie’s professionalism, calm warmth, and ability to truly listen combined with a great sense of humor enables her to create safety and genuinely connect with each person in her space. She demonstrates care and empathy while supporting participants as they step out of their comfort zones in their learning and growth. Read more
Joanne Dias

Leadership Solutions Partner; Senior Faculty. Center for Creative Leadership
Together with Jeanie’s incredibly perceptive insights I have been able to discover new internal terrain (my inner thinking, conditioning and wisdom) which I am now navigating through to get even clearer about aligning my actions with my own personal North Star. Jeanie stretches my thinking, shows me new worlds I can play in, helps me to creatively design the leader I wish to be and opens new doors of possibility I hadn’t even considered. Read more
Hulya Kazanaksu

Human Behavior and Communication Specialist
Jeanie is one of the most energetic, optimistic, visionary people I’ve had the pleasure of working with. She thinks strategically, motivating followers to feel like part of a larger team achieving broad goals. Her leadership talent shines in strategic planning, business development, creating, launching and implementing new programs and building organizations. And she always has fun in the process!Read more
Denny Kelly

President, Bouvier Kelly
Jeanie led our organization through a leadership assessment, succession planning, and executive search for our Chief Executive Officer. Facilitating the transition of a long-time director, and with it an organization culture change, requires great skill and finesse. She brought a depth of knowledge and expertise to the process coupled with an interpersonal savvy to manage the complex human dynamics of change and transition. Read more
Lonnie Revels

Chair, Search Committee, Metrolina Association for the Blind
I’ve worked with Jeanie both as a participant in her Stepping Stones to Discovery program and as my executive coach. I can’t thank Jeanie enough for being instrumental in helping me get out of my career rut and figure out what was next! I would still be right where I was without her guidance. I’m told every day by women how brave I am to be making such a career leap and following my passions, how I’m inspiring them and getting them thinking. I owe a tremendous amount to Jeanie for leading me through my self-actualization journey and creating the ripple effect. Even now, she’s still my cheerleader and supporter!Read more
Christie Soper

Founder + Chief Experience Officer, Suncierge, Inc.
Jeanie is intuitive and knowledgeable, able to give strong personalized guidance for individuals and the organizations they lead. She exhibits professionalism, compassion for others, intelligence, and good humor in everything she does. Whether you are an individual needing coaching or an organization in transition, you will benefit from Jeanie’s wisdom and capabilities.Read more
Corrie Lisk-Hurst

Principal/Owner, The Better Editor

 

Book cover design credit: Raman Bhardwaj  www.ramanartist.com